Love Letters for Leilla

My husband was not available to participate in our sessions, but Leilla gave me the guidance I needed to make changes in myself which completely changed my relationship with my husband and put our marriage back on track. – T.D.

Since we have been working together I finally have a sense of hope that things could be going in a positive direction for my husband and I. For years we have been going in a vicious cycle of frustration and negativity where we both felt the only way to get out of it would be to end the relationship. You have showed both of us that with just a few tweaks we could set things moving forward in a more positive, healthy direction. Some examples of this are – listening and responding to the words the other person is saying and not necessarily the emotion behind them, having a better understanding of the other persons needs and how their actions are based on fulfilling those needs, and how to communicate with one another in a manner that breeds more communication rather than distance. My husband and I have tried traditional counseling many times before and have always left feeling distraught and hopeless. The digging up and analyzing of the past that counseling brought out was not helpful or healthy for us or our relationship and did not provide the support we needed. Leilla’s approach is the exact opposite as it focuses on practical tools for moving forward from where you are today. This approach has worked very well for us and I think would benefit anyone who is looking to improve their marriage whether you are on the brink of divorce or just looking to work out some minor communication issues. – Lindsay

[Leilla] was able to pin-point the source of so many of our challenges, and she was dead-on. I knew she was the right one for us from that alone. But then she went on to show me how I could use those challenges to grow personally and drive my relationship in a new and better direction by making small shifts in how I saw and did things… My wife and I are both better people in ourselves and with each other, and our relationship is fuller and richer than we could have imagined. Anyone who isn’t changed for the better after working with her doesn’t really want it. – K.S.

When I started the Singles Signals program, I thought I was going to get some dating advice and direction on how to meet the right man, get married and live happily ever after. I have to admit, I was a little confused during the first session because we didn’t talk much about the dating process. I quickly realized that developing a quality relationship has more to do with becoming a person of quality than it does with how you meet… I became focused on developing the qualities in me that always existed that would help me attract a man of quality into my life. I have dated a few people since then and I am seeing someone now and I feel he fits that bill, but instead of having a “HE’s the ONE!!” attitude, I’m maintaining a “wouldn’t it be nice” dreamy attitude… We have been seeing each other for 4 months now and our relationship feels natural and exciting, instead of filled with stress and uncertainty. I have a new confidence in myself as a good partner for the right man. – A.T.

…Things were so bad that I was ready to throw away my marriage of 11 years and break-up my children’s family… This was not the life I had wanted for myself or my children. Working with you, I was able to figure out what I did want… It has been 3 years since that time and my husband and I are more committed to each other now, than we have ever been. – L.L.